In November 2020 I thought of Mum, Dad and Clive, and made my donation to the Stroke Association as usual, but could not remember how to write a tribute on this site. But now the death of a friend has brought me to the right place, on a grey winter’s day when we have to work hard to say we are happy to be alive in a world of fear and sickness. All the lessons my parents taught us about resilience and valuing our health above wealth remain to this day. My donation is given in tribute to their struggles and to honour all the health service and associated charities that work to support people after life changing illness.